You Benefit If Your Romantic Partner Recovers Well from Spats

Women who are looking for fulfilling and stable romantic relationships should look for a romantic partner who recovers from a confrontation/conflict well. “Yes, it turns out that if your romantic partner recoups well after the two of you have a spat, you reap the benefits,” according to results of a new study by the University of Minnesota College of Education and Human Development's Institute of Child Development.

“Recovering From Conflict in Romantic Relationships: A Developmental Perspective."

The research looks at how people recover a conflict with their romantic partner, said Jessica Salvatore, the lead researcher in the study "Recovering From Conflict in Romantic Relationships: A Developmental Perspective." The article is set to appear in the journal Psychological Science, and has been released online. Co-authors of the study are university researchers Sally Kuo, Ryan Steele, Jeffry Simpson and W. Andrew Collins.

Seventy-three young adults participated in the study they had all been followed since birth. The study combined the knowledge collected during their lifetime and then the time spent with their current romantic partner.
What the researchers discovered is that a “partner who recovers well doesn't let remnants of the conflict spill over or leak into other parts of the relationship,” Salvatore said. He or she is able to separate conflict from other types of interactions, such as deciding how to parent their children or providing support to one another. The study's findings are relevant to everyone in relationships, Salvatore said.

Conclusion

How well a couple recovers after an argument can predict the future of the couple’s stability. It can also give indications of what type of parent he/she will be and even possible if marriage is a good idea for the couple.

Source: http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/02/110211114323.htm